To be sexually pure, means to abstain from ALL sexual activity until marriage. To enter into any type of sexual relationship without a marriage union in place, is a terrible form of ROBBERY! To rob your future spouse of something you have already given away, is a very selfish act on your part. Virginity is a most precious gift, yet many of us "cast it like pearls to the swine".
While most of those who get sexually active before marriage won't admit it, they are simply unable to maintain any type of self-control in their lives. Instant gratification is assumed to be a civil right, while morality is looked upon as a "curse" to avoid. Our children are often the "fruit" of one night stands, "shack up" relationships, and other forms of perversion. Is it no wonder the children which result from incest, rape, and casual sex, often beget children within a few years of puberty? If this were not bad enough, many of these young people simply kill their offspring, rather than deal with the hardships a new born child would bring into their lives. Again, the key word for such conduct is SELFISHNESS.
Why would a person with a sound mind pollute their future marriage relationship, by withholding their future spouse of the gift of sexual purity? Why would anyone want to risk serious or fatal diseases, for a few moments of selfish and non-committed passion? (plus the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy) Why would anyone want to disobey God Himself, and mock the holy standards of conduct He commands us to follow? To ignore these rules which are intended to bring us safety and happiness in life, proves we are not really a person with true integrity and moral standards of life.
Before you "cast your virginity" to the wind, think about a few of the benefits of abstaining from sex until marriage. Can you imagine the special thrill of a man and his wife coming together in the marriage bed, when both of them know the other have RESERVED themselves for the occasion? When the "virginity factor" is in place, it adds a dimension to a marriage relationship which is priceless in value. To even consider giving away such a TREASURE to a non-spouse, is a most wicked concept. Even things like cars, are valued the most when they are new and unused.
Don't be deceived by worldly attitudes like, it really doesn't matter what you do with your body, as it is yours to do whatever you please with. While it is yours, REMEMBER God gave it to you as a temporary dwelling place. Also REMEMBER, it is also for the use of your spouse too. And REMEMBER, a woman's body should be a clean and pure vessel to house children in until they are born. If you really don't care about these things, it may very well be a short-term residence for you. Hell, is full of people who did not care enough about themselves enough to respond to the call of God upon their heart and soul. . Society has turned it's nose up, in regard to the high moral standards of both man and God's laws. For many thousands of years, things like adultery and fornication were offenses which incurred serious punishment by law. While such laws still exist in many places, few of our law enforcement people, or court judges, dare to enforce them. The simple truth is, if these laws were enforced, many of our police and judges would be in jail too.
If you have sinned sexually, you are not alone. While you cannot restore your physical virginity, you can start over and not repeat the sins of your past. Ask God to forgive you of ALL your sins, and ask Him to give you the grace to live life as pure as you possibly can. If you have a weakness in the area of sex, avoid any situation where it could cause you to do wrong. PRIVACY is not a good commodity when a man and woman are together in any setting. Real lovemaking includes sex, but sex is a secondary factor in the relationship. Without a marriage relationship in place, love often becomes a lust-driven label and excuse for sex.
When you can enter into a sexual relationship without guilt, and ignite the flames of passion in a totally pure manner, you have arrived at a place God ordained for you to inhabit for the remainder of your physical life here on earth. You do not have the right to offer your sexual-self to anyone, except your spouse. To do so, causes you to sin against yourself, and the person you engage in sex with. You always have a choice regarding this, but don't fool yourself into believing you have a RIGHT to do WRONG. In time, your sins will rise up to witness against you, here and in eternity. Seek God's forgiveness, and do what Jesus told the woman at the well to do: GO, AND SIN NO MORE...
Charles Gleason September, 2001
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